Starting a new relationship is fun and exciting. Long walks in the park, learning about the object of your affection and sharing new experiences are sheer bliss. Spending time with your significant other suddenly tops your list of priorities. Such is the case with most relationships, and it’s completely normal. Just don’t forget about the little people while you’re floating on cloud nine. Your friends may have trouble accepting you spending less time with them. Take some time to consider ways to ease your close friends into your new relationship.
Things will change. Don’t lie to yourself, or your friends, and say that your friendships with them will remain the same – that you’ll be just as close and connected to them as you’ve always been. It’s simply not true. Think about it. When your friends enter into serious relationships or tie the knot, are they as accessible as they were before? Most likely not. Welcome your new relationship status with open arms and communicate this to your friends. Some of them understand the dynamics of being in a relationship, so this won’t come as much of a surprise. You might need to do more explaining for your chronically single gal pals.
Set aside some “girl time”. Sure your calendar isn’t as free as it was before. That doesn’t mean you should abandon your girls altogether. Try to find ways to connect with them at least once a week. Texting is a great way to keep in touch. You can also keep them in the loop by planning something fun. Is there a new movie coming out that you would normally see together? Set up a movie night. Don’t feel like going out? Stay in with some wine and take out. Chatting it up about the good ol’ days with friends can be priceless and sacred.
Don’t fall off the face of the earth. Your friends need you, and you still need them. A few years ago, after a particularly bad break up, a friend of mine had to practically spoon feed me because I wouldn’t eat. I had lost an unhealthy amount of weight, and she was there for me until I could stand on my own two feet comfortably. She had a family of her own. However, that did not stop her from being a good friend in my time of need. I, in turn, never overstepped my boundaries and respected her duties as a wife and mother. Remember, you will always need a shoulder to cry on, a listening ear or just a friendly face. You should be that for your friends as well.
Most importantly, continue to revel in the joy of your new relationship. You deserve it!