1) Revealing too much, too soon. Imagine being on a first date and the person starts talking about a serious hemorrhoid problem they’ve been having. You would probably be a little weary, right? Open and honest communication is the cornerstone of a healthy and successful relationship, but not everything needs to be revealed within the first five minutes of meeting the person. A boss at a company I worked for used to say, “Nice to know ya. I don’t need to know everything about ya.” Telling too much, too soon can be a turn off. Feel the person out before revealing personal details about yourself.
2) Becoming a Stage 5 Cling on. “We’re going to be together forever and ever and wear matching clothes, and never leave each other’s sides.” Being in love is a beautiful thing. You want to spend every waking moment with your significant other. Their eyes sparkle just right in the moonlight, their hair smells good, and they just get you. This is called the honeymoon phase. Typically it wears off after about six months to a year. If you find that your significant other wants to spend time with his friends, there’s nothing to panic about. Part of being in a healthy relationship means that you explore your individual interests. Trying to be a part of every aspect of your partner’s life without giving them breathing room can stifle your relationship. Additionally, it is important for both you and your partner to maintain separate identities. Keep the spice in your relationship and let him breathe!
3) Excessive insecurity. Nobody, I mean nobody, wants to be in a relationship with an insecure person. Insecurity can manifest itself in several ways. Examples include checking your significant other’s phone, constantly making accusations of infidelity and commenting on personal bodily flaws. Even the most devoted of partners can eventually grow tired of these behaviors. Men and women alike are attracted to confidence. It’s sexy. Nothing is more attractive than someone who is comfortable in their own skin. Furthermore, acting out of insecurity undermines trust in a relationship. Would you want to be in a relationship with someone who didn’t trust you?
4) Nagging. Most people have quirks or traits that drive their partners crazy. Constantly reminding them of their shortcomings and/or only acknowledging the bad is a definite deal breaker. It demeans the other person and builds hostility within the relationship. Sure you might have to gently remind your honey to take out the trash 3 – 4 times a day, but at least you have a honey to take it out. Evaluate the severity of your complaints. Does your partner’s behavior affect your physical, mental or emotional well-being? Or can you find a healthy compromise? Consider this: if your tagline is, “it’s my way or the highway”, he might just take the highway.
5) Cheating. Infidelity can have an article all on its own. Cheating can destroy trust, effective communication, your sex life…you name it. While some couples can successfully overcome infidelity, it is a known fact that even after meaningful attempts, most couples don’t make it. Do yourself a favor. Leave before you cheat. You will maintain your integrity and possibly preserve a friendship with your significant other. This also increases your chances of a reunion should you decide that you want to be with said person.