Read This First
A lot of guys look at the issue of getting a girl back to their place form the wrong angle. They’re always wondering “What do I do?”, “How do I raise the issue?” or even worse “What’s the line?”.
Wrong wrong wrong.
Dating is NOT a Super-Mario game, where you “advance” from level to level. It’s very fluid and all the “levels” are connected to each-other.
Asking her to come to your place for a cup of coffee or a glass of wine might ruin, in some cases, the beautiful thing you two had going… and then you’d had to start from the beginning.
How do you know if she’s ready? It’s all about paying attention. Her voice tone, body language and her overall engagement in the conversation are not just clues, but solid evidence of just how much she’s attracted to you.
If the two of you are talking a lot about sex and you make a lot of jokes about it, her agreeing to accompany you to your house is most likely a safe bet.
But if she’d rather talk about friends, family or work, you still have a long way to sealing the deal.
Most girls will probably be somewhere in-between the two extremes, which means you have to build that attraction and see how she responds. The key here is to take your time, even if this means not taking her home. Why lose an opportunity because you were too anxious to get into her panties?
OK, don’t get me wrong here. You don’t have to be this super-careful guy from now on when it comes to bringing up sex or taking things further. Girls want sex just as much (if not even more).
A wise man once said “You miss 100% of the chances you don’t take.” So if you see that she’s into you, if she’s giggling, laughing, asking you questions and wanting to know you better, why not take a chance?
Who knows… she might just say yes.
Ok, so you’re at your place. Do you jump her directly like a horny dog? Of course not! Things went natural and smooth so far, why change that?
At this point it’s important to resume the conversation. She’s in a man’s room, one she’s never been into before. Allow her some time to get comfortable and keep building rapport and comfort. If you see that she’s tense, you can try a joke or two.
If this works (and it will!), the girl will start to open up slowly and you’ll be able to see how she’s suddenly more open to sex talk. Now a lot of guys mistake this for some sort of a signal that it’s ok to stick it in.
While it’s ok to increase the speed of the foreplay from time to time, you shouldn’t lose your head and skip right to the sex.
If this is your first time with that girl, chances are she’ll have trouble reaching orgasm with you. The key is an amazing foreplay.
Foreplay is another huge topic so I’m not going to go very deep, but one of the best techniques I’ve ever used was “2 steps forward 1 step back”. You start escalating (whether it’s kissing her shoulders, massaging the back of her neck or stimulating her breasts, then you pause for a few seconds and get back to doing something less intrusive (such as caressing her hair).
Then you advance further, take another step back and so on.
The key to all of this (this is why the title of the article says “read this first”) is to be super attentive to how she’s reacting to the way you behave. This is important from the moment you first meet to sex but it’s absolutely CRUCIAL that you read her well when you’re about to ask her to come home with you. Failing to do so will almost surely result into losing the girl.