Fretless First Dates

Fretless First Dates

So you’ve been out of the dating game for a while, and coming up with a suitable venue for your first date feels like planning a round trip vacation to Mars.  Or perhaps you’re a dating pro, but the thought of “dinner and a movie” again makes you want to go to the nearest bridge and jump.  You are not alone my friend.  First dates already come with their own brand of anxiety.  What will he or she be like?  Will you have chemistry? What are you going to wear (I have a Michael Jackson Thriller jacket that I like to throw into the mix every now and again…oh yeah).  One of the last things you want to do is worry about the “where” for your big night.  That’s where I come in – sans the infamous jacket.

Coffee anyone?

Doesn’t matter if you call it java, joe, brew or battery acid.  Coffee shops have a relaxed atmosphere, perfect for the “getting to know you” vibe of a first date.  Something about being in a coffee shop invites open dialog and socialization.  It’s inexpensive and informal, which helps to take some of the pressure off.   Coffee shops are just about everywhere so finding a suitable spot shouldn’t be difficult at all.

Take a walk.

Repeat after me:  Hi I’m [insert name here].  I’m a [insert zodiac sign here], and I like to take long walks on the beach.  Good job!  Now never utter those words again in life!  On a serious note, taking a walk is a great way to get to know someone.  Nature tends to have a relaxing effect on people.  He or she will likely be comfortable with you, allowing conversation to flow freely.  I took a walk on a first date a few weeks ago.  While the date itself wasn’t that great overall, the two of us felt more at ease talking to one another during our walk.  So grab those tennis shoes and get to trotting.

Have a dinner party.

Invite other people on your first date.  You will be able to see your potential beau interact with those closest to you.  Seeing him or her navigate through different personality types can be a good indicator for what you have to look forward to in the future.  Feel free to excuse yourselves if you want some alone time.  Once the party is over, you and your friends can conduct a formal review.  Your friends may see things, good or bad, that you didn’t quite catch.  Sometimes it’s nice to have multiple sets of eyes around.

First dates are all about getting to know the other person, and gauging your level of compatibility.  What other venues are good for first dates?  I’d love to hear from you!

Veronica Dasher is a blogger and aspiring author. Entertaining her friends with stories of failed pick-ups and relationships gone wrong quickly became one of her favorite pastimes. One divorce, eleven years of bad dating experiences and hundreds of empty ice cream cartons later, she had an epiphany – why not share these life lessons with the world? Smoochingfrogs is the newest dating blog complete with hilarious stories, epic fails, and dating advice.

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