There’s a key ingredient missing from so many relationships these days. People keep wondering how to improve their relationships, how to get along with their significant others better, how to become one of those couples that just has ‘it’. The answer is simple people: The ‘it’ that those annoyingly cute couples have is friendship.
You need to be with a person who makes you feel at ease; someone you can be totally open with. You need to date someone you can be silly with and laugh with, someone you can dance and sing with. Develop a relationship with someone who lets you be you and who allows you to speak your mind. If you’re ever scared to be yourself or say how you feel with the person you’re dating then you might want to start re-evaluating things. Why subject yourself to a life of insecurity, worried that you’ll be judged for every move you make? Sorry, but that’s not what lasting relationships are made of.
Sometimes it’s not even that the person makes you feel insecure, it’s just that your friendship chemistry is off. Think about someone you’ve known for years but could never develop that real bond with. That happens with relationships too. You might get along with someone fine but if that deeper friendship never forms you really aren’t left with much besides the physical attraction (which, by all means, is great if that’s all you’re looking for).
Jeremy Taylor wrote “Love is friendship set on fire” and there is nothing truer than his words. If you want a relationship that will last and bring out the best in you, find a friend within the fireworks. When we’re kids, we talk about how cool it would be if we could live with our best friends and spend all our time together. Well, now you have the chance.
Relationships that lead to happily ever after are always rooted in true friendship, true companionship. It’s the main ingredient you need to make it work; it’s the flour in your cake of life.