Bye… You say to yourself as you gently close the door behind him… Your anxiety levels are still at their peak.
Why did he leave? 20 minutes ago he was inside you, rocking every bone in your body… and now he’s gone, making up some stupid excuse. You know for sure he didn’t have that excuse when he walked in.
And yet, he left. Was it something you said? Probably…
Us guys get turned on and off very easily. And the easiest way to make us walk away from your bed is to tell us something related to sex that will make us feel inferior.
Here’s the deal: every man wants to know he’s “the man” in bed… even if he’s not. Now, if you want that man, with his goods and bads, you can’t be too forward. You have to make him feel like he’s in charge while, at the same time, slowly persuade him in the direction you want him to go sexually.
I can’t give you advice on how to improve the communication with your man… that would take too much time. What I can do, on the other hand, is to give you some of the biggest blunders women make in bed… verbal blunders, that is… the type that will make him walk away, even if you’re not finished.
Ready? Let’s get started.
#1. “My Ex used to kiss me right here…”
We don’t really care about your ex-boyfriends. Fortunately, there’s an easy way to fix this: just tell is “I LIKE to be kissed right here”. Easy, right?
Better yet, why not point with your finger when you say it? If you gently stimulate your clitoris with your finger while you tell him to kiss your right there in a sensual voice, what man can say “no”?
I get that you loved each and every one of your ex-boyfriends, and that each of them knew how to make you feel good. But the last thing we want (and that goes for women too) is to be compared to an ex.
#2. “I don’t want to talk right now.”
If you said this, he was probably asking uncomfortable questions… and he just wouldn’t quit. And there’s a reason for that. He most likely thought that this is somehow his fault and that you’re trying not to hurt him by changing the topic. If you told him you don’t want to talk about something sexual, he will 100% think it’s his fault… and that he’s not good in bed.
You have to set things straight… without delving too much into the real reason why you’re upset, of course. Tell him it’s something related to your emotions and your sexuality, and that it’s NOT his fault. Tell him it’s a girl thing. He will calm down as easily as he started to get agitated.
#3. “Are you finished?”
Hey, if he’s not ejaculating too soon, that’s a good sign, right? So maybe he’s not doing it right or maybe he has an erection problem… but that’s not something you can fix.
If he does usually ejaculate but he seems to be taking his sweet time sometimes, why not give him a hand? Faking an orgasm, as immoral as it may sounds, is a great way to get him to finish faster… and avoid some pain and frustration for the both of you.
I’ve been with women who faked it and, even though we both knew, I still came. So don’t be afraid of doing this, it’s actually fun and you might end up liking it. In fact, faking orgasms is a great way to increase your chances of actually having it. The old saying “fake it until you make it” works well in this case.
#4. “I heard something. Could you go check?”
While you might have indeed heard something, to us it sounds like a line from one of those old Benny Hill shows.
To us, things are straightforward. If the noise is not loud enough, it’s probably nothing. If it is, we really don’t need you to tell us to go. Don’t underestimate our hunter instincts and let us wear the pants, it’s one of the few things we can do right. J
#5. “I faked it”
While I did tell you faking it is ok sometimes, that doesn’t mean he should know. If you indeed fake it, telling him will probably the last thing you will utter to him.
Instead, you can try a different approach. You can talk with your man about improving your sex life. In other words, tell him sex is good but you want it to be fantastic. If he really loves you, he’ll do anything to see you satisfied… and you won’t have to fake it anymore.
These were just 5 of the most common mistakes most women make with their lovers… but there are many others. At the end of the day, it all comes down to the man you chose for yourself. If you constantly feel the need to tell him things like the five enumerated above… maybe he’s not right for you.
There’s nothing wrong with being independent enough to move on. You never know what’s out there…